Signal Boost: Five languages of self-love

[fandomonymous]

Five languages of self-love

I'm sure there's flaws in the 'five languages of affection' model, but every framework has flaws, and the five languages framework is one I think lots of people have run into. I hadn't thought about moving it inward until recently, and how what is internally caring and useful for some is useless for others.

I like giving acts; I like receiving touch; I appreciate but struggle with time; words can be hard to produce but have powerful effect; gifts to me are as much about their stories as their objects and that's a whole different tangle. And all this effects how I care for myself and revive myself, the 'solo' of 'solo polyamory' being not just a set of boundaries but also a set of priorities.

Stuff to chew on.

Comments

[flexagon]

I like this, so thank you! I've noticed the same thing, that what some people do for "me time" makes no sense to me and probably vice versa.

They missed a really obvious one under "touch". :-)

[jesse_dylan]

Looking back, I can definitely see how it could have been a useful framework in relationships. Looking forward, I should learn more about myself and how I receive love (and self-love)!