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findingfriendsHi, I'm Tina :)
Is there an interesting story behind your username?
Not really, I just needed a name so I took a lyric from my favourite Taylor Swift song at the time, "ivy". The whole line is "my house of stone, your ivy grows, and now I'm covered in you".
Location and language(s):
Germany. German (native language), English (near-fluent), and I am currently learning French. I also know some Spanish and bits & pieces of Polish, Turkish and Dutch.
Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.):
Old Late 30s (to be exact, I turn 38 in fourty-four days).
Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:
Besides the usual closed-minded views - if you think a person's worth depends on how much work they can contribute to society or on how healthy they are, both physically and mentally.
Also, neither radical zionists nor Hamas supporters, please (I don't talk about this topic on my journal but I don't want to associate with extremists on either side).
Lastly, no-one under 18 years of age - nothing personal, I just am not comfortable with having non-adults reading my entries.
Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.?
I do, you can read it as a sticky post once we're friends :)
Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful?
It is up-to-date - as for usefulness, that's for the beholder to decide ;)
While I don't have a "biography" on there, you can always gain some info by looking at my interests.
List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away:
-> I'm mentally ill and have also been dealing with some physical health problems lately. This means that my entries aren't always a 100% positive, although I try my best not to be a complete downer. It also means I don't always have the spoons to reply to comments and entries but I catch up whenever I can!
-> I am neurodivergent which means I sometimes misunderstand things or take them too literally, and I am bad at phrasing things. If I ever say anything offensive, please try to give me the benefit of the doubt that it wasn't on purpose and tell me what I did wrong and I will apologize and try my best to learn from it.
-> I have been bullied on here before to the point that I had to change journals and been slandered on other communities, which has made me wary of people adding me without notifying me before. So please comment on here or on my Friends Only post before friending me, thank you very much ♥
You mostly write about:
My daily life, things that go through my head at any given time, books that I read (I do a weekly "Reading Wednesday" post), travels. I sometimes posts memes/surveys, but not so often that it gets annoying - hopefully! I also post lots of photos, often of my cat Lucy.
You never or very rarely write about:
Politics/social issues (I care about them A LOT but my DW is supposed to be a safe place away from the constant influx of terrible news).
Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?
99% locked, as I don't feel comfortable with having my private stuff out there for everyone to see.
Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?
No.
Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):
Not counting the weekly Reading Post, I try to update at least once a week, usually on Sundays.
Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
Photos, yes. I sometimes post a video if I hear a song I want to share.
What do you enjoy most about journaling?
Sharing my thoughts and daily events with others, getting feedback and new perspectives that help me and make me think, emptying my mind of stuff that weighs on me...
How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
I aim at once a week - like I said above, sometimes a lack of spoons will get in the way, but I try my best!
You really enjoy reading about:
People's lives! I love getting a glimpse into how others live, what things are like in other corners of the world (pictures are always a bonus) and also reading views and perspectives I wouldn't otherwise get. Reading others' journals has opened my mind a lot and I have learned so much over the years.
You have very little interest in reading about:
Right-wing/conservative politics, anti-vax or anti-psychiatry/psychiatric med stuff, heavy on religious content. (I don't mind if the latter is a part of your life, what I mean is if most of your entries are about what happened at your last church/synagogue/mosque etc. visit because I wouldn't be able to relate.)
Also, while I have nothing against it at all, if your journal consists of nothing but fandom, I probably won't have anything to say unless I happen to know the fandom in question.
Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
I like them.
When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?
What matters most is knowing you care about what I write and not just comment to comment. I don't mind if it's "just" a heart or an emoji, or one single line, or if you comment once a month or every time I update.
Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?
No. I will unfriend somebody if they friend me but never comment or update (like, if a year or so passes and I don't even know who they are anymore). That doesn't apply if I know something happened in your life, obviously - real life takes precedence over online journalling. You won't have to fear "pressure" to update or comment in any way.
What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals?
I am not sure I understand what this means *blushes*
When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?
Hmm, this happens rarely, tbh. I think I'd unfriend them without warning since I don't think messaging them would achieve anything. Sometimes I make a post if I do a bigger friends cut, but that's not focused on individuals. I would prefer to be quietly unfriended, myself.
AND LASTLY
Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?
No particular ones except for the weekly Reading Post - and I make a small entry talking about books and movies of the month at the end of every month (you don't say).
Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends?
I am looking forward to meeting you! ♥
Is there an interesting story behind your username?
Not really, I just needed a name so I took a lyric from my favourite Taylor Swift song at the time, "ivy". The whole line is "my house of stone, your ivy grows, and now I'm covered in you".
Location and language(s):
Germany. German (native language), English (near-fluent), and I am currently learning French. I also know some Spanish and bits & pieces of Polish, Turkish and Dutch.
Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.):
Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:
Besides the usual closed-minded views - if you think a person's worth depends on how much work they can contribute to society or on how healthy they are, both physically and mentally.
Also, neither radical zionists nor Hamas supporters, please (I don't talk about this topic on my journal but I don't want to associate with extremists on either side).
Lastly, no-one under 18 years of age - nothing personal, I just am not comfortable with having non-adults reading my entries.
Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.?
I do, you can read it as a sticky post once we're friends :)
Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful?
It is up-to-date - as for usefulness, that's for the beholder to decide ;)
While I don't have a "biography" on there, you can always gain some info by looking at my interests.
List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away:
-> I'm mentally ill and have also been dealing with some physical health problems lately. This means that my entries aren't always a 100% positive, although I try my best not to be a complete downer. It also means I don't always have the spoons to reply to comments and entries but I catch up whenever I can!
-> I am neurodivergent which means I sometimes misunderstand things or take them too literally, and I am bad at phrasing things. If I ever say anything offensive, please try to give me the benefit of the doubt that it wasn't on purpose and tell me what I did wrong and I will apologize and try my best to learn from it.
-> I have been bullied on here before to the point that I had to change journals and been slandered on other communities, which has made me wary of people adding me without notifying me before. So please comment on here or on my Friends Only post before friending me, thank you very much ♥
You mostly write about:
My daily life, things that go through my head at any given time, books that I read (I do a weekly "Reading Wednesday" post), travels. I sometimes posts memes/surveys, but not so often that it gets annoying - hopefully! I also post lots of photos, often of my cat Lucy.
You never or very rarely write about:
Politics/social issues (I care about them A LOT but my DW is supposed to be a safe place away from the constant influx of terrible news).
Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?
99% locked, as I don't feel comfortable with having my private stuff out there for everyone to see.
Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?
No.
Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):
Not counting the weekly Reading Post, I try to update at least once a week, usually on Sundays.
Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
Photos, yes. I sometimes post a video if I hear a song I want to share.
What do you enjoy most about journaling?
Sharing my thoughts and daily events with others, getting feedback and new perspectives that help me and make me think, emptying my mind of stuff that weighs on me...
How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
I aim at once a week - like I said above, sometimes a lack of spoons will get in the way, but I try my best!
You really enjoy reading about:
People's lives! I love getting a glimpse into how others live, what things are like in other corners of the world (pictures are always a bonus) and also reading views and perspectives I wouldn't otherwise get. Reading others' journals has opened my mind a lot and I have learned so much over the years.
You have very little interest in reading about:
Right-wing/conservative politics, anti-vax or anti-psychiatry/psychiatric med stuff, heavy on religious content. (I don't mind if the latter is a part of your life, what I mean is if most of your entries are about what happened at your last church/synagogue/mosque etc. visit because I wouldn't be able to relate.)
Also, while I have nothing against it at all, if your journal consists of nothing but fandom, I probably won't have anything to say unless I happen to know the fandom in question.
Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
I like them.
When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?
What matters most is knowing you care about what I write and not just comment to comment. I don't mind if it's "just" a heart or an emoji, or one single line, or if you comment once a month or every time I update.
Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?
No. I will unfriend somebody if they friend me but never comment or update (like, if a year or so passes and I don't even know who they are anymore). That doesn't apply if I know something happened in your life, obviously - real life takes precedence over online journalling. You won't have to fear "pressure" to update or comment in any way.
What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals?
I am not sure I understand what this means *blushes*
When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?
Hmm, this happens rarely, tbh. I think I'd unfriend them without warning since I don't think messaging them would achieve anything. Sometimes I make a post if I do a bigger friends cut, but that's not focused on individuals. I would prefer to be quietly unfriended, myself.
AND LASTLY
Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?
No particular ones except for the weekly Reading Post - and I make a small entry talking about books and movies of the month at the end of every month (you don't say).
Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends?
I am looking forward to meeting you! ♥
